Oh boy has life changed!
And I’m watching the sunrise from beautiful Aruba I thought I will write 30 things I have learned so far
- Self love is hard yet the key to a better life.
- It’s ok to say NO
- Chains can be broken
- It’s ok to step away from toxic people
- Breaking gender norms is fine
- Seeking help in anyway ain’t a weakness
- Your overall health is the most important thing
- Dream big even though it just seem like foolish dreams
- It’s never too late to heal past wounds
- Love with all you got and pick up yourself if doesn’t work
- Just because they are related doesn’t mean they won’t hurt you and/or you can’t step away ( in my experience RUN, there is way too much toxic family)
- Starting all over isn’t the end of world
- Advocate for yourself
- Set boundaries
- Learn to be alone
- Accept help from others
- From my mission: “one option is no option”-PBL (I’ve lived by this one for 7 years now
- Keep and surround yourself with good friends (especially those who are like family)
- “Not my problem”-“out of my control” (for those moments we want to do it all)
- Keep records (the good, the bad and, the ugly)
- Explore everything life has to offer
- Keep an open mind (you never know when things can change)
- Self worth is not defined by your job or the material things you may owned (I’m working on it)
- What others think of you ain’t your responsibility (haters gonna hate…bye bye)
- Prioritize yourself
- Enjoy the little things and make each day count
- You are stronger than you think. This too shall pass
- Follow your gut!
- Time does wonders for the soul when used accordingly (my therapy has help me see this)
- When in doubt remember you are loved by more than one!
In my 30 years I’ve lived a lot, quite a bit for someone my age to be honest. I often joke I’m gonna write a book because my life felt like a telenovela growing up. I have moved a lot, I’ve survived years of emotional and verbal abuse (did you knew trauma can also be classified as thing you long for, I learned this when I was diagnosed with C-PTSD) As an adult I’ve been working thru years of generational trauma that I didn’t know was there, I found out a lot about myself and I’m not done. EMDR has made a hell of a difference in my life, working a psychologist has taught skills to cope that are healthy unlike what I’ve done previously.
I will tell you this, 15 year old me didn’t think I was gonna make it this far and boy am I glad to tell her we somehow caught a break and got the help we need (in more than one way)
My husband seriously has been my cheerleader in this whole process. Sometimes I worried he sees too much potential in me lol 😂 but in reality he has help me identify the aspect of my life which were causing me pain and allowed me to do all of this at my own pace.
My mom bless her heart has had a bit of an eye opening with all of these changes too as we both are learning to unlearn habits that aren’t healthy. Realizing we are enough, we have done enough and, we will continue to be enough.
I’m excited to go back to school to finish my degree and start my masters, I’m excited to announce we are 6 months post gastric sleeve and loving it.
I’m on a path of self discovery, I’m hoarding skills to help me have a successful life and most importantly I’m learning to love myself
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